Top 5 Dating Tips for Shy Guys
September 30, 2009 by Leo S
Filed under Dating Tips, Tips for Men
Are you looking to get into dating but feeling shy? Nothing to worry about it, there are millions of single shy men who are into the same boat. All men are not equally confident. There is a group of shy men who are passing through the same dilemma – how to meet or talk to women? Following 5 great dating tips for shy guys will provide insights on certain key areas.
1) STOP STOP STOP – Avoid Bars or Clubs
Avoid meeting a woman at bars or clubs with hope to settle in life. It’s not the right place to meet a woman. Usually single woman at bars or clubs are not looking for a boyfriend or life partner. It’s the place where majority of people are drunk and trying to have fun. Sometimes people are totally different at bars compare to their daily routine lifestyle. You might either get disappointed with someone or you might end up with a person who is not perfect for you and just looking to party. I would recommend avoiding the bars or clubs period.
2) Time to get Motivated & creative
Enroll for classes or clubs to get motivated. Instead of being so desperate about finding a girlfriend, just go ahead and join the activity clubs such as movie nights, sports clubs, computer classes, social work group, outdoor activities club, foreign language classes – it’s the first step towards getting friendly and star a new trail of friendship by meeting new people. You never know, you might meet an interesting woman with common interest to surprise you.
3) Friendship is the key
Let’s say if you come across the woman that interests you most then do not get excited. Stop…Stop…Stop… Do not start thinking about her as a future girlfriend. Just be friend with her. Remember one thing; friendship turns into a relationship for good. So, Instead of thinking about a relationship with that woman, I would recommend you to try to know her better. Get comfortable with her and enjoy her company but at the same time learn more and more about her. Whenever a woman gets into a comfort zone, they will be more relaxed and let you know the real “her” without any fear.
4) Be Yourself
Do not try to behave or act in a different way than your original personality. Just be yourself instead of being someone else. Stay away from being jerk, bad guy or a lady killer. That will not be a right move. Relationships are meant for life, so you don’t want to prove yourself somebody you are not. She needs to fall in love with you the way you are. Trust me; you wouldn’t be able to pretend all your life. It’s easy to be yourself. Just try to talk about things you like and interests you the most. You can ask about her liking and disliking. If you find something common then sky is the limit. You will keep going on and on talking about it. Apart from all, if you can’t find anything common between you then at least be happy that you found a good friend for a life. According to me, going against your real behavior, is a WRONG WAY!!
5) Do not Fear – Everyone is faking
Usually woman likes guys who are bold, outgoing and confident. If you feel attracted to a woman but loosing courage to initiate a talk, push yourself. Don’t ever let your fear overcome your confidence. Just be confident, fearless and say “Hello” to a woman you like. At this point, do not worry about any pick up lines. Usually your “Hello” will be appreciated by a woman. Take a deep breath, relax your body and keep your shoulders back when you walk up to her. 90% of guys are faking it. So don’t you worry about it. YOU GOTTA FAKE IT. All you need is one fake thing and you won’t need it once you get into the conversation.
I believe above mentioned 5 top dating tips for shy guys will help them meet and find a woman. Start implementing these tips in your daily routine life. For example, get ready to fake whenever you are traveling on a train, waiting in a queue at bank, at dry-cleaners, at laundry room, at airport or at any public place. Just be fearless and fake it one time. Once you get success talking to women one or two time, you will be relaxed forever. You will loose shy nature forever. Happy dating!
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Totally agree that bars are a horrible place to meet. Someone who can be the life of the party when drunk can be extremely dull sober and add if they’re tired after a long day of work it can really change a persons attitude.
When I meet a guy I do picture if we can be friends as well in the relationship as it will assure fun and more comfort and trust over all in the relationship. I’m not a cheater per se but will be far less inclined if the guy is a friend as well because you don’t do that to friends
I think by working on your self confidence you have the best chance of meeting and attracting a woman right for you. Definitely work on being your best self and doing activities you enjoy instead of cruising clubs and bars.