Would you want to know?

[polly1]

We had this situation a few days ago. My 22 year old started dating a girl about a month ago.Well someone gave him a letter that she had written to another guy. She says is was months ago. The person who gave him the letter doesn`t like her. So we figured she was just trying to split them up. My questoin is would you want to know about something the person your dating did before you dated him? I would if it was something really bad, but not slly things like that. The past is the past and should stay there. But it`s childish to play games like that just because you don`t like a certain person. It`s nice to be older now and not have to deal with those games. But now I feel for my son because he does.

[maggie]

I am pretty sure that I would be up to knowing about the letter. Even if it were something earlier, if it were very serious, then I would want to have the information. If it were just someone being mean, then I would rather not.

[hermana]

I don't think that I would want to know about my boyfriend's previous relationships, at least not until we were further into things. I would think that seeing something like that so early on would make trust really hard.

[Leo]

I would agree with Hermana, just wait for sometime until you get comfortable. Scrutinizing things during the early stage of dating might ruin your things. So take a deep breath and let it go normally and when you feel that person you are dating is right for you then you can try to know about his or her past.

[Witty]

Yes, the early stages are supposed to be lighthearted and fun. However, as things are getting more serious, that is the "need to know" point where any surprises and things that could ruin the relationship if held back too long should be addressed. So, to answer simply, yes I would want to know.