Dating an ex again

[lovely33]

What do you think about dating an ex? My ex called and wants to get back together. We've been apart for 3 years. It was mutual when we split up. We both were just too young. Do you think it's a good idea or not?

[Sadie]

It just depends on the relationship you had three years ago. If being too young was the only problem then it might be worth it to try again now that you're older. On the other hand, if you were incompatible back then you may still be incompatible today.

[Shygirl]

I agree with Sadie, age plays a big part. If you both have matured and gotten past the issues you had back then, are wiser and are still attracted to each other, I say go for it.

I would just be careful to get all the old grievances out at the beginning and discuss what you want to do differently this time.

[lovely33]

Great idea! Talking about what the problems were in the beginning. What I don't want to talk about is the people we dated in between. I think that would just be odd to me. Your thoughts?

[Bridget]

That's a tough one because the relationships you had in between helped shape the person you are today. So, I think it is good to talk about past experiences to an extent. At the very least, I would talk about you've learned about yourself in the past three years.

[tikii]

I don`t know. I don`t think talking about who you have dated since you broke up would really accomplish much. Talking about why you broke up is one thing. But past dates I would leave in the past. You both know you have dated others of course, but I just don`t quite like the idea of bring them up now. Just move on and leave the past where it is.

[DatingDiva]

I would not talk about what you had in between because although it helped shape you, it is completely different from what you had with your ex then and it will be different from what you have with your ex in the future if you get back together. You know the lessons you learned from dating other people, now is time to put that to action and show your ex you have grown up.

[Ronnie]

I wouldn't talk about the others either. I mean sure if you are talking about your sexual pasts and safety then sure if you want to. Other than that, the past is the past and it doesn't need to come up.

[Leo]

Well... I have a different opinion about it. It all depends on the reason of separation. If you guys were separated for some genuine reason then I would say you might want to give a thought about it. Sometimes, people separate for nothing and later they realized that he/she was wrong. And, person start begging to get back. You can read how to get your ex back book for your reference to overcome the situation.

But, in this case, it seems like it was a mutual decision and now as time has passed and you guys want to get together...then give it a shot. Quick tip on your first date... do not bring bad time you guys have gone through. Instead, try to talk about some good memories....

[Maximus]

That was a great advice Leo! Never open up problems on your second first date, the first was when you don't know each other yet. Talking about good times will rekindle the love between you.

About relationship that happened after your breakup, I would rather not talk about it if I am in your situation. Let me ask you this, what would you feel when he tells you about his previous relationship with other women?