Doesn't Know How To Listen

[sweet_lover]

My cousin (a girl) have entered into a new relationship with a person who doesn't know how to listen. They have been together for just a month. The guy always thinks he is right and doesn't listen to what my cousin says. My cousin really loves him but have this problem about listening.

What advice would you recommend? I want my cousin to end their relationship for I'm foreseeing that she will be hurt in the end. But I can't tell her this because its her decision.

[tikii]

That sounds like a red flag to me. He would be an overbearing I`m the man in this relationship type. That is one of the things you look for in a man who could possibly be an abuser. You can talk to her but she may not listen. Get her on here and let her see some of the advice. Then she just may look at him in a different way.

[Maximus]

Like what tikii have suggested, better tell her to visit this forum for she would learn a lot from here. Just tell her that there are many more fishes in the sea. And that it will not be the end of the world if she breaks up with him.

[Nancy]

I wouldn't get involved with someone like that. I understand you are not going to agree on everything but for someone to think they are always right is just wrong, for me at least! Hopefully your cousin will work this out for herself.

[sweet_lover]

Thanks for the advice guys, I will tell her about this forum.

The thing that I don't like about my cousin is that she is like a martyr. She always says that love could change him but I honestly don't. I think my cousin is just stubborn and is really blinded by her feelings.

[Sadie]

If love was the answer then all the jerks in my past would have been successfully reformed...but they're not. Nothing can change a person until they want to change themselves. It sounds like this guy is perfectly happy being a controlling know-it-all so he will likely stay that way for a long time.

[lonelyheart]

If he doesn't listen now, does she think that it will change? People rarely change for other people so I'd see this as a big red flag. She either needs to accept the way he is or leave right now.

[sweet_lover]

I talked to my cousin on the phone last night about her situation. I told her my impressions on his boyfriend and now she hated me. She said that I cannot fully understand him because I'm closed minded. Sometimes I can't stand how my cousin thinks.

Well, I will just wait for her to come to me with tears and I will just say to her "what did I tell you?" Enough is enough, I let her do whatever she thinks is right.