Feeling comfortable with yourself

[Laudia]

What is the best way to start getting used to being outgoing and getting over shyness issues? How can I become comfortable enough with myself so that I am ready to start talking to real men, NOT jerks. Every since the last guy I dated (who was a huge jerk) I just can't find my comfort zone again.

[Looking4Love]

It's just a matter of doing it. I know it sounds stupid but when I realized that I had nothing to lose by being myself, I started to become more confident in who I was and just kind of put out that aura. Just take the first step and do it. It'll be awkward but after a while, you'll feel great.

[Laudia]

I hate feeling awkward but I guess there isn't anyone who really likes it right? I'm going out tomorrow night and I plan to test my borders and see what happens! Wish me luck, I will need it.

[lovely33]

That is a tough one. It's all about self-confidence and self-worth. Perhaps you should stay out of the dating pool for a bit and work on you again. Pamper yourself, tell yourself each day that you are worth it and you are important.

[lonelyheart]

The one thing that will really help you is to start faking it for now. It'll start off feeling a bit weird but after a while you'll become more and more comfortable with it. Next thing you know, you are outgoing and getting the attention of other people.

[Witty]

This comes with practice and sorry to say, you may have to interact with some jerks along the way. Lonelyheart is right when saying fake it until you make it! Know that you have something to offer that no one else can do like you and you'll get over your shyness eventually.

[maggie]

I think it can also be helpful to work on activities that boost your self-confidence and maybe stretch your meeting new people skills little by little. It could be a great growth experience and doesn't even have to be in the context of dating someone.

[Nancy]

The thing that has helped me the most is to make a list of all the attributes that are good about me and read it often. I also look in the mirror once a day and say something nice to myself. I know this sounds silly but it really works!

[dizzy]

Jumping in with both feet in the water is a good start. Some people we date leave a bad impression and mess is up thinking it will very be simple or no one would ever get together.