Women Asking Men Out

[Nancy]

How do you guys feel about women asking men out? Is it considered okay to do this now or is it frowned upon like it used to be? My mother used to tell me not to call guys which really used to make me mad, to me that is putting the guys on a pedastal like we are beneath them, what do you think?

[Bridget]

I think it is much more acceptable these days for a woman to ask a man out. In my opinion, the old school belief of woman not calling men wasn't about putting the man on a pedestal. I think it was more about making the man be the pursuer rather than the pursuee. Maybe our parents had the right idea - dating never used to be as difficult as it is in this day and age!

[Looking4Love]

We're living in the 21st century now and I think it's perfectly fine for women to ask guys out. As a matter of fact, it may help women have more empathy for guys by doing this. We guys can get pretty jittery when asking someone out for the first time.

[lonesome50]

Hi there, I just joined today. I see nothing at all wrong with a woman asking a man out. So many things have changed since I was a girl. My mom and dad didn`t like me to even calll guys on the phone. Living together was out of the question. But then my mom got into it after my dad ided. lol. She has lived with two men without being married. Now she is 72 and wants no men at all. lol.

[lovely33]

I'm a woman and I say "go for it". If I waited until the man of my dreams asked me out, I might be here a long time. I see nothing wrong with it at all.

[Laudia]

I think I have a lot of "building myself up" before I could get to the point where I would be comfortable with asking a man out. I have saw many women do it though and I have heard men brag about being asked out by a woman!

[DatingDiva]

I am a traditionalist and I say no. Women may have come a long way in the workplace and with our own independence and such, but men haven't had a great movement. I would rather a guy come up to me, than me to go up to a guy who would have never approached me, but just said yes to my asking him out because he did not want to turn me down or because there was no one else for the taking at the time.

[JamesP]

You got a good point there Diva. But I would join the others for letting the ladies do the asking out.

I for myself, would accept the fact that ladies could say what their feeling towards the opposite gender. Gone are the days of princesses lock in castle waiting for their knight in shining armor. There are times that shy men are too afraid to tell what they really feel but you can know it by their glances. So when ladies approach them then it will save the shy-type guys from getting a lot of courage just to ask a girl out.

[dizzy]

Do it! I have dated younger guys than me, asked both younger/same/older out before and even carded some of the ones that looked young(er) for their age. No shame in it. I still love when someone opens a door for me, but I have no issues doing the asking. ;)

[lonelyheart]

I think it's cool when a gal asks a guy out. Kind of takes the pressure off the guy to make the first move. Besides, it's flattering to be asked out by a woman.