Be polite

[lovely33]

I swear I have known right from the beginning (within the first 5 minutes of the date) if I would go on a 2nd date with someone. It's all about manners, and being polite. It's nice to open the door for someone, say please and thank you, etc.

[Psiren]

I can usually tell pretty early on if there is going to be a second date too. Although once is a while I go out with someone who is on his best behavior in the beginning of the date and then about halfway through he starts to feel comfortable and loosen up and then, bam! This is why I wish people would just be themselves from the start. I hate it when I think I might really like someone and then I get broadsided with who they really are.

[sweet_lover]

People tend to impress their date on the first date that is why they pretend to things that are good and pleasing. But just like Psiren said, after some time they loosen up and they show their real colors.

There is a way in order to know about your date's true character. You could ask someone who knows your date, they could tell you bits and pieces about him.

[Looking4Love]

Glad to hear from someone that manners still matter. We live in a society where the common courtesies seem like they are a thing of the past. I, too, look for manners in a person because that's the way my parents raised me.

[lovely33]

Believe me, I know all about getting comfy and showing their true side. I do think that a person should be polite all the time. Heck to get a second date with me you have to be polite.

[geni]

People forget manners sometimes and this goes for dates as well just about anything else. I have also noticed in the years more and more people do not open doors anymore, on a date or else. I still open a door, esp. when I know the person actually needs help. Have morals and ethics flown the coop?

[tikii]

I have had doors opened for me at stores. There are still gentlemen out there. Although very few. I like to meet the persons friends because they tend to be more themselves. That way you can see what kind of person they really are. Also the friends will tell you things too.

[Colleen]

I agree politeness is so much a forgotten thing nowadays! Truthfully, people ARE going to put their best foot forward usually until they get to know you, it would be nice if their true selves were as polite as when they are on their best behavior!

[Maximus]

I have another point of view regarding politeness. Men tend to be polite just to get the heart of the ladies when they are still dating. Their politeness begins to fade when they get what they wanted. The politeness will be totally gone after marriage. This is not true to everyone but this is what I normally observed between couples.

[Sarah]

I think it is really interesting that people are so fixated on politeness. I think that there are other things that are super important, and politeness is a good manifestation of good character. I don't want necessarily over the top polite, but I think that a certain honesty and politeness is really great.