Fanning the Flames – Easy Way To Get Romantic

To get some spice and romance back in your life, you’ll want to do something new and different.  You don’t have to START with things that seem foreign to you.

If you have never done anything more romantic than slap your spouse on the behind, it may be a bit of a stretch for you to pull off a lavender scented bath for two with rose petals floating on the water.

Start small.

That way, you will get more comfortable with the idea of romance and as you proceed you can think of new and more elaborate things to do without feeling you are out of your element.

You have to get used to the new habits, and that takes a bit of time.  Don’t worry, we’re going to give you plenty of ideas for those small romantic touches and for the big special occasions like anniversaries and proposals.

First, let’s see how well know your partner.  The key to romance for YOUR relationship is to do things you know YOUR partner will like.

Don’t worry about what made that woman on the big screen melt, do what makes YOU and YOUR partner happy.

Though your discomfort with romance will fade as you practice, if you try to do something that feels foreign to you as a person or to your relationship you probably won’t want to try it again.

So, just how well DO YOU KNOW YOUR PARTNER? Get ready to gather answers and determine…

1. How does your partner like to relax at the end of a long, tiring day?
2. What is your partner’s favorite dinner entrée?
3. Does your partner like the ‘pet name’ you’ve given him/her?
4. What makes your partner smile?
5. What does your partner like to do on a special occasion?
6. What kind of movies does your partner like best?
7. What is your partner’s favorite place (park, beach, etc.)
8. What city would your partner find romantic?
9. What puts your partner in a romantic mood?
10. Name a celebrity your partner finds attractive or sexy
11. Does your partner like to get up early, or sleep late?
12. Is your partner a night owl?
13. What recreational activity does your partner like best?  (dancing, jogging, biking, horseback riding, sports, etc.)
14. Does your partner prefer a hot bath or a long shower to relax?
15. Does your partner prefer red wine or white wine?
16. Does your partner like public displays of affection or is he/she a very private person when it comes to romance
17. If you had to dress in something sexy for your partner, what would they like the best?
18. What kind of music puts your partner ‘in the mood’?
19. When your partner is distracted or upset, does he/she find words, or touch, more comforting or perhaps both?
20. What is the fastest way to turn your partner off?  What pathetic or revolting attempt at sexiness would they find unsexy or unromantic?

You may wonder why this exercise is important.  Very simply, these answers will help you personalize your romantic experience with your partner.

If you found it hard to answer some or most of these questions, you don’t have to give up on romance.  Just take the time to ask questions and find out more about what appeals to your partner.

It doesn’t have to be an interview or inquisition.

You can start by saying something like “You know, from the pictures I’ve seen, I always thought the Caribbean would be a romantic place.  If you could pick a romantic spot to go, where would it be?”

By asking your partner questions, you will find out who they are TODAY, and not have to depend on 20-year-old conversations you had during your first date.

Remember, a big part of romance is knowing what makes the other person tick and showing how much you care by doing something THEY will like.

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